But the truth is, I AM disappointed. I don't aim to have some amazing career. I don't want to be famous or rich. (Although the rich part wouldn't be a BAD thing.) I don't want to be a best selling novelist. Or an award wining journalist. I just want to be a mom.
I know. I am a mom. Check that off the list, right? Kinda. Sorta. See, when I used to dream about becoming a mom, I certainly didn't dream about getting pregnant in college, moving home with my parents and finishing school as a single mom. Would I trade that experience? Not for a lifetime of re-dos. But my life has changed since then. I'm married now and we have a chance to do this family thing the right way. So I saw it almost as a second chance. If Hubson hadn't come along it would still just be Banana and Me. But here I have this chance. My dream to grow a family the right way was reborn.

What bothers me is this feeling that my dream is less important than some other loftier dreams.

I suppose that in the grand scheme of dreams and accomplishments, there must be a hierarchy. But what's relative is how it feels. Not having a cute baby bump and not being able to afford my dream nursery feels to me like I've failed. Like somewhere along the way, I dug this grave and now it's time to lie in it whether I like it or not. It feels like my dreams were torn from my hands and while my dreams may not be those of scholars and athletes and celebrities, they were MY dreams. And it hurts. It makes me feel empty and hollow. And if that's how I feel, who are you or anyone else to tell me I'm wrong? And that I should get over it?
When a dream dies or doesn't work out the way you hoped it would, it hurts. It doesn't matter what the dream or who the dreamer is. It hurts. It's not fair to judge the dreamer or the dream.
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